Sorry I didn't get to the Hotwire thing last night; I will do it next and post it here. Last night turned out to be quite stressful. Michael's 15-year-old girlfriend's mother called us over for a conference. Apparently Michael and Steph slept together once. She has been overcome with guilt and talked to her mom who called Michael and us to discuss it. She is very severe and was being very hard on Steph for having lost her virginity that can't ever be reclaimed, and then spoke of how hard this is for Steph to resolve and live with herself. I had to speak up on the need to move on after a serious mistake and forgive yourself for being human and fallible to hopefully get her mom to back off on the the "ruined forever" theme. She will be grounded a long time and they will not be allowed to spend unsupervised time together but I advocated for telephone contact at least a couple of times a week so they can work things out together rather than have her isolated on her own. Michael was remorseful at the scene, but since he had lied to us about the situation even on the way to the conference, I don't know what to believe about his feelings.
She called Michael hours later, then called me to say she was worried that he would hurt himself. I talked to him also about the need to move on and make his life positive, but he seems to sometimes think that an extreme quick reaction will make everything better. I think the danger point is past today, and he is working on painting with dad. When the mail/keys come, he will come with us to Madison. I want him to keep busy with family for several days, and I will restrict his "friends" time somewhat since he has had fairly unlimited rec time when not working with dad.
I'm open to any suggestions that might occur to you, being closer to the whole high-school age issues. I do understand that your own plate is plenty full with moving issues, so don't feel obligated, but if anything comes to mind, I'm listening.
Airfare is a little more expensive today, just under $200/person from CWA, but American Airlines has better times at the same price. I can get us in to Richmond at noon 8/15 and our flight out on 8/22 doesn't leave til noon. I've got the seats on hold for 24 hours to talk one more time with Grandma, then we'll book.
Hotels: I like the look of the Wingate on hotels.com. It's on 13991 N Gayton Rd, 1/2 mile from Short Pump Town Center. It has a good included breakfast, pool/hot tub/fitness center which are nice if we're there for several days. I can get a 3-star downtown hotel for $69 through Hotwire but I don't know if it has breakfast. Wingate is $84.30/night average but Hotwire always has a few additional fees so it might be a similar cost. Hotwire also has a 3-star for $49/night in Richmond West/Glen Allen, again ? breakfast. What do you think?
Talked to Grandma - flights are booked. Will email you copy of itinerary. Keys arrived. Must shower so we can go to Madtown.
Food:
9:00 am 1 c Quaker Oat Squares, 1/2 c skim milk, 151 g strawberries
12:00 pm 2 slices Trader Joe's multigrain bread, 2 oz Mesquite Turkey lunchmeat, peach
1:00 pm 1/4 c cinnamon almonds
3:00 pm Bottle of Ramune
5:30 pm 3 crepes filled with mixed berry sour cream filling, 10 oz fresh squeezed OJ
8:15 pm 1 c Trader Joe's 9 grain cereal, 1/2 c light vanilla soy milk
1 comment:
I think the problem in this situation is that Mike and Steph were indoctrinated by a system that emphasizes the Badness of Sex. Fact of life: teenagers have sex. I'm disappointed that Steph's mom is as upset as she is.
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